Last month the distress call was sent forth in plea for the rescue of purity in our society. I was able to share with you a bit of my personal journey in this quest that I so strongly believe in.
The fact of the matter is this, the days that we live in have grown darker and evil is lurking. The Bible speaks very clearly about the seasons of time we are in. As Christians, we are to recognize that we live in this world but we are not of this world. So, although drastic measures have been taken to lure and trap people, we are to be on alert and operate in wisdom.
So as a young lady trying to live right and keep your ways pure…how can you do so when you feel as though your quest for purity is being violated the moment you walk out the door? It’s not an easy task to embrace the lifestyle of purity and not many people will celebrate your decision to set yourself apart and honor the Lord in your sexuality. On our own, we cannot do this. We must first have an understanding of why we must surrender our sexuality to the Lord and second we must have a strategy in place. As told many times “Failure to plan means planning to fail”.
Strategy Strengths In Rescuing Purity
1) Understand That You Don’t Belong To Yourself
As an unmarried woman, it is vital to realize that your body does not belong to you, but to the Lord. (1 Corinthians 6:19-20). As a married woman your body belongs to your husband (1Corinthians 7:4)The principle of purity remains the same for both the married and single…either way our bodies our not our own so we must surrender our desires to our covering…as a single lady that would be God until He brings us our earthly covering in our husbands. SIDE NOTE: All the more reason to be mindful of who you marry…if your body belongs to your husband, wouldn’t you want to submit yourself to someone who will honor you and your body in a manner that would be pleasing to the Lord? Just a thought…
2) Protect The Main Gates
Be mindful of the information being pumped into your spirit through the main gates that lead to your heart….the eyes and ears. It’s proven that whatever you feed your brain begins to take root in your heart and eventually you will act upon what you meditate on.
That is why the Bible warns us “Above all else guard your heart for out of it flow the issues of life” Take a moment to consider the many issues in the lives of those around us and even our own. These issues have a past and they have a trail…could it be that the initial steps in the journey were caused by images and messages posted through our main gates?
Periodically I will “fast” from secular media to just cleanse my mind. I am astonished when I return to television and radio what I see and hear. Now the images and songs are not necessarily “new” to me….I’ve seen and heard them countless times before but because I just got used to it, my senses became immune to the trash I was filtering into my spirit.
Whenever I am struggling in my thought life regarding any area; finances, faith and ESPECIALLY relationships, I can always trace the negativity to something I heard or watched that contaminated my spirit.
Be mindful of what you submit your eyes, ears and mind to. Think of it as the steering wheel of your life…what direction are you headed?
3) Surround Yourself With The Right People
Make sure your close friends are on the same page as you. Do those closest to you share your values? It is hard enough keeping yourself on track how much harder would it be if those closest to you oppose your values and continually challenge your desire for a pure life? Be mindful of who you allow to speak into your life. I have many friends but very few that I allow to speak into my life regarding relationships. I don’t mean that as an insult I am just being real. If my purity is at risk and I see myself drowning by temptation, you better believe I’m only going to call out for the friends I know have a life preserver with them to give me some real help! I’m not saying alienate all those who believe or live different than you…I am saying be selective in your core friendships. SIDE NOTE: This is where I give a huge shout out to my L.O.L. girls…all are married now except for Kenika and I and I praise God for the wisdom, strength and balance they give me as Godly friends with shared values!
4) Accountability
Have at least one person in your life you can be transparent with and accountable to. This needs to be someone who knows your heart. Someone you can trust and be transparent with. Someone you can tell anything to without fear of judgment. Someone who will listen to you and then follow up with Godly council.
We’re human and God created us with desires that are healthy and normal. Just because I desire something doesn’t mean I can have it….right now. I need someone in my life that I can be honest with when I am struggling and yes I have days when I struggle. I have a dear friend of mine from Phoenix who has been a God-send in my life over the past 10 years. We’ve had many conversations that included me crying, complaining and venting and yet at the end of it all, she would direct me to what my values were and what God says. Just the other day I texted her during a moment of struggle…all I had to say was HELP and PRAY. (lol) She knew what I needed and she knew how to pray!
In closing, it is my heart that not one person reading this experiences condemnation from the words on this screen. It is my prayer that you recognize the value of who you are and what God has designed to be a beautiful blessing in your life. I don’t want to see anyone settle for a counterfeit when God has a genuine and fulfilling love life waiting for you. I love you and I believe in you! Let’s help each other in this fight for purity!
Single Living
“Be mindful of what you submit your eyes, ears and mind to. Think of it as the steering wheel of your life…what direction are you headed?”
Contact Trish
trish@ladiesonlife.com
S.O.S. Saving Our Sex and Rescuing Our Purity
by Trish
