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Marriage
by: Sonya
Seeing The Best In Your Spouse
Contact Sonya: sonya@ladiesonlife.com
Marriage has its ups and downs. We can be challenged in so many areas of marriage to where it can be difficult at times to find the good in our mate if we are constantly seeing the bad in them. If we look to the negative all the time, we can grow a bitterness and distance from our mate.
Looking for the best in our spouse is key in marriage. We can be quick to point out or criticize the negative in them, which tears your mate apart. Or we can go above that and make our marriage great by focusing on the positive traits you see in them and seeking out their best interest. For example, I tend to always forget something on my grocery list when I come home. My husband used to think it was on purpose but in actuality I really did forget and it was an honest mistake. He understands that, as He knows I have a lot on my mind and I tend to forget. So he is slow to say anything when I forget because he is seeking the best in me. Another area in our marriage is that I tend to run late by a few minutes. Therefore, when I come home and it isn’t the exact time I said, my husband could think the worst and say there she goes again she is always late nothing will change. Or he can have the mindset that maybe she is in traffic and she will be calling anytime to let me know she will be a little late. These two responses are completely different and can completely change the situation if you react one way or the other.
As we focus on the best in our mate, we can begin to strengthen that marriage bond . In our marriage, it helps to understand my husband first before I jump to conclusions and vice versa. 1 Peter 3:7 talks about understanding your spouse and what that means. “In the same way, you husbands should live with your wives in an understanding way, since they are weaker than you. But show them respect, because God gives them the same blessing he gives you-the grace that gives true life. Do this so that nothing will stop your prayers." Finally think about each other first and look for those positive characteristics in each other and seek the best in your marriage. Hebrews sums it up, “Let us think about each other and help each other to show love and do good deeds.” Hebrews 10:24
Looking for the best in our spouse is key in marriage. We can be quick to point out or criticize the negative in them, which tears your mate apart. Or we can go above that and make our marriage great by focusing on the positive traits you see in them and seeking out their best interest. For example, I tend to always forget something on my grocery list when I come home. My husband used to think it was on purpose but in actuality I really did forget and it was an honest mistake. He understands that, as He knows I have a lot on my mind and I tend to forget. So he is slow to say anything when I forget because he is seeking the best in me. Another area in our marriage is that I tend to run late by a few minutes. Therefore, when I come home and it isn’t the exact time I said, my husband could think the worst and say there she goes again she is always late nothing will change. Or he can have the mindset that maybe she is in traffic and she will be calling anytime to let me know she will be a little late. These two responses are completely different and can completely change the situation if you react one way or the other.
As we focus on the best in our mate, we can begin to strengthen that marriage bond . In our marriage, it helps to understand my husband first before I jump to conclusions and vice versa. 1 Peter 3:7 talks about understanding your spouse and what that means. “In the same way, you husbands should live with your wives in an understanding way, since they are weaker than you. But show them respect, because God gives them the same blessing he gives you-the grace that gives true life. Do this so that nothing will stop your prayers." Finally think about each other first and look for those positive characteristics in each other and seek the best in your marriage. Hebrews sums it up, “Let us think about each other and help each other to show love and do good deeds.” Hebrews 10:24
"As we focus on the best in our mate, we can begin to strengthen that marriage bond.”
